In these unprecedented times, everyone is feeling the impact of coronavirus on their daily lives and future plans. We are all adjusting to a new normal and it is difficult to know how to plan for the next few weeks or even months, as no one has concrete answers to know how this will play out and continue to influence our lives. While everyone is affected by the virus in one way or another, we understand that it can be an especially difficult time for couples who are planning nuptials for Spring 2020. On top of the changes in daily life, many couples who had their wedding plans all set and ready to go are now faced with uncertainty surrounding how to adjust plans going forward.
Governmental mandates have already essentially decided for some couples who were planning to have April weddings, but there are still decisions to be made for those with weddings in May, June, or even later. Of course, couples will be required to follow whatever guidelines are mandated by national and local authorities, which could change as time passes. In addition to our responsibility to keep our communities safe, a variety of more personal factors may influence a couple’s decision about postponement.
Do you expect a large number of guests to travel? If so, consider the likelihood that guests can travel safely and find out if there are travel restrictions in their area. Do you have guests who are considered members of a vulnerable population? Most couples hope to invite family members who may be older or could have underlying conditions–Can you comfortably invite those guests and feel reasonably confident about their safety? These are very personal decisions that could vary based on different characteristics of your guests. We understand that making the choice to postpone your wedding can be extremely disappointing after so much planning and anticipation. We get emotionally invested in our weddings and invest a considerable amount of time and money in wedding planning.
Depending on your personal situation and your vendors’ policies, you may want to take a “wait and see” approach and wait a few weeks before making the ultimate call to postpone. If your wedding is later in the spring or early in the summer, you may be able to assess the situation and see how things are evolving with each passing week, holding on to the hope that you can carry out your plans on your original date. For other couples, making an early decision to postpone may bring more peace of mind amid the uncertainty.
I’ve Decided to Postpone My Wedding. Now What?
- During your decision-making process, you’ve probably already discussed possible alternate dates and scenarios with your wedding party and closest family members. Talk with your venue and those closest to you to find a date that can work for the family and friends who are most important to you. Speak with your vendors about postponement policies and their availability for future dates. Try to keep an open mind about different options–if you are flexible about considering days other than Saturday, you are likely to have many more dates to choose from. You are not alone in dealing with these unusual circumstances! Your vendors will do their best to support you and work with you. You might be surprised with the flexibility and options that are available, such as applying monies you have already paid to your new date. You may be able to hold a small family ceremony on your original date and wait to have your big reception later this year at your venue.
- Inform everyone on your guest list about the new date via multiple communication channels. It is probably a good idea to update your wedding website, if you have one, but guests may not regularly check your site. Call, text, email, or send carrier pigeons–Do what you need to do to communicate important changes with your guests! You know your guests and you know which communication channels work best for you.
- If you haven’t already hired a planner, now is a great time to consider it. A planner can take some pressure off of you as well as help you weigh pros and cons surrounding some of these big decisions. Professional planners can be invaluable when it comes to communication, coordination, and ensuring a smooth transition to your new date.
- Get creative about repurposing your decorations, outfits, and overall color scheme for a different season. If your spring wedding is pushed into fall, you may be able to keep everything essentially the same and simply incorporate seasonal flowers. Creative wedding vendors can give you some great suggestions here, as well. For example, consider simply adding a shawl to help bridesmaids stay warm and stylish in cooler fall weather. Your guests won’t mind an out-of-season color scheme…they will just be happy to be able to celebrate with you!
- If your budget allows, plan a new honeymoon to celebrate. Delayed honeymoons were increasing in popularity well before the current restrictions limited travel options. Consider planning a fun trip for next summer or maybe a first anniversary trip. This can allow you more time to save up and perhaps extend the length of your trip or visit your dream location.
This unprecedented public health crisis has introduced a strange set of circumstances that no couple would think to anticipate when planning their wedding. It is frustrating when a special day that has taken so much planning is suddenly turned upside down by factors that are out of our control. When it comes down to it, you will still marry your person and celebrate your love! Some of the finer details may change a bit, but you can plan a future celebration to keep you and your guests safe and healthy. Your family, friends, and vendors will all be thrilled to celebrate with you once we make it to the other side of this! If you have any additional questions or need more suggestions about how to deal with a wedding postponement, contact the experienced team at the Rand-Bryan House.